Sow….
(Sowing beautiful thoughts and dreams ….)
Sometimes I am blessed with the opportunity to work with children and recently I worked with a very clever 10-year-old girl. We tend to be closer to the energy of love as children, seeing the magic and wonder of all that is new in the world and it’s always a delight to be around such special energy.
I often bring my dog Luna with me when I work with children as she also has a very childlike energy – full of fun and play, but with capacity to become anxious and ungrounded because she’s so clever, sensitive and full of the joy of life that sometimes she literally forgets to keep her feet on the ground (she’s also a springer spaniel so ‘springs’ through the long grasses around where I live)
I get a lot of insights from Luna and children – reminders of how important play is, recognition that we all have an inner child that needs nurturing and understanding and most of all how we interpret the world around us.
During my conversations with the little girl, we talked about how Luna needs time to ‘wind down’, to rest and relax after she’s had fun and been excited, so that it doesn’t turn into anxious energy. (These aren’t quite the words I used but this is the shorter version). This then led on to understanding emotions and how they affect you.
(As part of my coaching packages, I do something called Time Line Therapy which helps people to clear Anger, Sadness, Fear, Hurt and Guilt and I was working lightly with this concept as we walked slowly – almost as a walking meditation, with Luna scampering about, weaving in and out of the trees and bushes – also enabling and element of EMDR – as eye movement helps to clear problems from the brain, when done in a certain way. )
I asked her what anxiety does for her, as this is one of the emotions she wanted to talk about, and she said – It tries to ruin everything. This answer was perfect – it was a true recognition of the IMPACT of anxiety. However, it was not a recognition of what is does FOR YOU.
It made me realize that a lot of people view ‘negative’ emotions as something bad. These emotions are trying to harm or ruin your life, but – why would you create an emotion to ruin your own life???? The answer is – you would not!
From birth we start to figure out how to use emotions to help us in life – like loving friends who are on this journey with us, pushing and pulling us in directions to keep us safe, happy, loved and living our best lives. What goes wrong along the way? Our interpretation of emotions. How we are taught to view them, how we are taught to use them – or not taught.
Our psyche is kind, benevolent, loving. It will deliver what it thinks we need and want for our best and highest possible good. It’s just that very often it has learnt something that, at a logical level, doesn’t’ seem to make sense. This can then lead to regular anxiety, depression, overeating (which is one I’ve just worked with and resolved), living in loneliness, avoiding love and so many other things. All because our sub-conscious and unconscious think that this is what we actually want, so that we can have our best life.
So, while working with my 10-year-old client – we were able to objectively see that anxiety is a friend (Annie Anxious) and then bring in a better friend for the situation in which anxiety wasn’t doing all the work – Harmony Happiness. This allowed Annie Anxious to have a little rest as she was tired after all that hard work.
So, choose to love your emotions – for they are all a part of you, even the ‘bad’ ones, as they are good really – see them as your friends and ask them what they’re doing for you that’s good? How are they trying to help you? Then bring in a different emotional friend (like Harmony Happiness), so that you can give those other emotions a little rest.
Your varying emotions are all part of the beautiful tapestry that makes you – you. Always value and love ALL of who you are in the now. You absolutely deserve it.
Rose x