July 2nd, 2024
Sow….
(Sowing some thoughts and dreams ….)
There are times in life when we can feel alone, isolated or separate. I’ve been pondering on this recently because I wanted to understand what creates ‘separateness’. It can lead to a feeling of loneliness, even when we have people around us. It can be present in a romantic relationship or in a crowd of people. So how can we feel so alone, when with others?!
I looked inside myself to find the answers for this and spoke to friends, to enable the process of finding the answer from any direction spirit and the universe wished to present it. Spirit (our loved ones who’ve passed over), will often present us with information through what we hear on the tv, what our friends say, what we read – anywhere in which we are presented with information – we just have to work with our intuition to start to recognize what information is being presented by spirit and what information is being grabbed by the ego (I’ll talk about this another day!).
After having worked with several clients recently who were very much in their ‘head space’ – operating on what their brain told them, rather than utilizing the information from their heart, or gut (instinct), I realized that when we’re in a place of fear, quite often we reside in the thoughts of our brain. Now…. our brain does a wonderful job – it sorts things out, it helps us to understand things at a conscious level so we can verbalize our truths and so much more, but it also is where the ego resides – via the amygdala – to help keep us safe and most of all alive.
When we live in a place of fear that other people may emotionally hurt us, or we’re protecting ourselves too much from people who we believe may not treat us in the way we deem as acceptable – therefore judging others, to enable preservation of our happiness, peace and wellbeing – it can actually create a void between yourself and the rest of humanity. Why, I asked myself – because humans are flawed! All humans! It’s the human condition to have issues that we then project (usually accidentally) onto others and the cycle of different emotions goes around while we work out how to resolve these issues within ourselves. This doesn’t mean that bad behavior of all levels is acceptable in your life, but what it does mean is that compassion and recognition of those who are in difficult emotional places is the same as having compassion and recognition for ourselves, for we are all a microcosm of the universe and God is in each of us. Whether you are religious or not, what this means is that we are all made up of the same things – we all have the same emotions, just to different levels, depending on our experiences and our emotional strategies that we’ve developed to get through this world.
What matters is, that we keep returning to our heart space. If we think too hard about what our relationships and interactions with other people ‘should’ look like, then we miss the soul lessons being presented to us and by trying to control our life to any extreme can lead to reclusive behavior, isolation, disconnection from others and loneliness.
To have connection with others we need to see them through our hearts. When we fully love and accept ourselves, in a heartfelt way, then it allows us to accept and connect with others in a heartfelt way. Seeing the good, the bad and the ugly in another and observing that, rather than taking it personally, allows connection without fear. When we love ourselves unconditionally, it enables us to love others unconditionally and to have strong boundaries so that we can engage safely with other people. When we heal the hurts in ourselves it means there is nothing left to be triggered for healing by others, and when we see others through the eyes of compassion and understanding it makes them less scary and easier to find a connection with.
Remember – there are 7.7 billion people on this planet, all trying to do their best with the circumstances and scenario’s they find themselves in – when we realize that we’re all suffering from fears, wishes, love and loss then we can relate to those around us and know that there are so many people we can connect with – and people who are like us!
It can be difficult to navigate the swirls and whirls of life, the trick is to follow your heart with the intention of living in love. Allow contrasts in your life – balance of people, doing, having, holding, resting, play, work and follow the river of your heart without thinking too much sometimes!
With a loving heart,
Rose x