Aug 22, 2024 | Journal
Sow….
(Sowing some thoughts and dreams ….)
Jealousy. As a therapist I know jealousy is something that people feel when they are in a freeze response, when they don’t feel empowered to take actions that will bring them what they want, as they’re afraid of rejection, of ridicule, of wasting time on doing something that won’t work, of losing what they already have. There are many self-esteem, self-empowerment and self-love issues around jealousy.
As a spiritual mentor I know that jealousy is an ego response, living in a sense of lack, victim mentality, lower vibrational energy – an emotion that is showing somebody what they want, while not empowering to have it.
As a human I know that I don’t like feeling jealous and I don’t like being on the receiving end of jealousy.
But how is jealousy love? The emotion of jealousy can be quite complex and can come in many forms. It’s not an emotion that I like to feel and fortunately very rarely do. The only time I’ve felt jealous of something that someone else was doing, was when I have been doing too many ‘should do’s’ and not doing enough ‘want to’s’. This was caused because I’d squashed my soul desires and listened to my head in isolation of my heart, intuition and gut instincts, leaving me living in a self-made world of functionality (to people please), rather than joy, creativity and love. Once I recognized how harsh I was being to my gentle soul, I altered my behavior and all was well once again. I recognized that I was empowered to manifest the life that I wanted and to be, do and have the things that I desire through my own volition rather than wishing for the experience of someone else, as if I wasn’t enabled to create a version of that or myself.
This still doesn’t answer the question of ‘but how is jealousy love?’. Well….. it is an expression of sub-conscious self-love. Even negative emotions are your sub-conscious way of keeping you safe. When you feel something that causes you discomfort – even if you don’t feel like it’s the right reaction, or don’t want the emotion you’re feeling – it is your own inner self being your friend. So, when jealousy rises to the surface it’s worth identifying what you feel YOU are not having and what is stopping you from going out there to get it? When you identify this, you can acknowledge the reason and work on resolving it, to remove the barrier that is stopping you from having what you want. To enable more self-empowerment.
If you’re on the receiving end of jealousy, sometimes there comes a need to step away from that energy until the other person has had chance to resolve their issues. As humans we tend to worry about space over a period of time – that there is a risk of losing someone. However, as soul’s – time and space do not apply, so giving yourself or others time and space to do inner work will only enable you to come back together in more love. Empower yourself to be in the best energy as consistently as you can. Your soul deserves it.
With a loving heart,
Rose x
Aug 22, 2024 | Journal
Sow….
(Sowing some thoughts and dreams ….)
There are times in life when we can feel alone, isolated or separate. I’ve been pondering on this recently because I wanted to understand what creates ‘separateness’. It can lead to a feeling of loneliness, even when we have people around us. It can be present in a romantic relationship or in a crowd of people. So how can we feel so alone, when with others?!
I looked inside myself to find the answers for this and spoke to friends, to enable the process of finding the answer from any direction spirit and the universe wished to present it. Spirit (our loved ones who’ve passed over), will often present us with information through what we hear on the tv, what our friends say, what we read – anywhere in which we are presented with information – we just have to work with our intuition to start to recognize what information is being presented by spirit and what information is being grabbed by the ego (I’ll talk about this another day!).
After having worked with several clients recently who were very much in their ‘head space’ – operating on what their brain told them, rather than utilizing the information from their heart, or gut (instinct), I realized that when we’re in a place of fear, quite often we reside in the thoughts of our brain. Now…. our brain does a wonderful job – it sorts things out, it helps us to understand things at a conscious level so we can verbalize our truths and so much more, but it also is where the ego resides – via the amygdala – to help keep us safe and most of all alive.
When we live in a place of fear that other people may emotionally hurt us, or we’re protecting ourselves too much from people who we believe may not treat us in the way we deem as acceptable – therefore judging others, to enable preservation of our happiness, peace and wellbeing – it can actually create a void between yourself and the rest of humanity. Why, I asked myself – because humans are flawed! All humans! It’s the human condition to have issues that we then project (usually accidentally) onto others and the cycle of different emotions goes around while we work out how to resolve these issues within ourselves. This doesn’t mean that bad behavior of all levels is acceptable in your life, but what it does mean is that compassion and recognition of those who are in difficult emotional places is the same as having compassion and recognition for ourselves, for we are all a microcosm of the universe and God is in each of us. Whether you are religious or not, what this means is that we are all made up of the same things – we all have the same emotions, just to different levels, depending on our experiences and our emotional strategies that we’ve developed to get through this world.
What matters is, that we keep returning to our heart space. If we think too hard about what our relationships and interactions with other people ‘should’ look like, then we miss the soul lessons being presented to us and by trying to control our life to any extreme can lead to reclusive behavior, isolation, disconnection from others and loneliness.
To have connection with others we need to see them through our hearts. When we fully love and accept ourselves, in a heartfelt way, then it allows us to accept and connect with others in a heartfelt way. Seeing the good, the bad and the ugly in another and observing that, rather than taking it personally, allows connection without fear. When we love ourselves unconditionally, it enables us to love others unconditionally and to have strong boundaries so that we can engage safely with other people. When we heal the hurts in ourselves it means there is nothing left to be triggered for healing by others, and when we see others through the eyes of compassion and understanding it makes them less scary and easier to find a connection with.
Remember – there are 7.7 billion people on this planet, all trying to do their best with the circumstances and scenario’s they find themselves in – when we realize that we’re all suffering from fears, wishes, love and loss then we can relate to those around us and know that there are so many people we can connect with – and people who are like us!
It can be difficult to navigate the swirls and whirls of life, the trick is to follow your heart with the intention of living in love. Allow contrasts in your life – balance of people, doing, having, holding, resting, play, work and follow the river of your heart without thinking too much sometimes!
With a loving heart,
Rose x
