July 5th, 2024
Sow….
(Sowing some thoughts and dreams ….)
Jealousy. As a therapist I know jealousy is something that people feel when they are in a freeze response, when they don’t feel empowered to take actions that will bring them what they want, as they’re afraid of rejection, of ridicule, of wasting time on doing something that won’t work, of losing what they already have. There are many self-esteem, self-empowerment and self-love issues around jealousy.
As a spiritual mentor I know that jealousy is an ego response, living in a sense of lack, victim mentality, lower vibrational energy – an emotion that is showing somebody what they want, while not empowering to have it.
As a human I know that I don’t like feeling jealous and I don’t like being on the receiving end of jealousy.
But how is jealousy love? The emotion of jealousy can be quite complex and can come in many forms. It’s not an emotion that I like to feel and fortunately very rarely do. The only time I’ve felt jealous of something that someone else was doing, was when I have been doing too many ‘should do’s’ and not doing enough ‘want to’s’. This was caused because I’d squashed my soul desires and listened to my head in isolation of my heart, intuition and gut instincts, leaving me living in a self-made world of functionality (to people please), rather than joy, creativity and love. Once I recognized how harsh I was being to my gentle soul, I altered my behavior and all was well once again. I recognized that I was empowered to manifest the life that I wanted and to be, do and have the things that I desire through my own volition rather than wishing for the experience of someone else, as if I wasn’t enabled to create a version of that or myself.
This still doesn’t answer the question of ‘but how is jealousy love?’. Well….. it is an expression of sub-conscious self-love. Even negative emotions are your sub-conscious way of keeping you safe. When you feel something that causes you discomfort – even if you don’t feel like it’s the right reaction, or don’t want the emotion you’re feeling – it is your own inner self being your friend. So, when jealousy rises to the surface it’s worth identifying what you feel YOU are not having and what is stopping you from going out there to get it? When you identify this, you can acknowledge the reason and work on resolving it, to remove the barrier that is stopping you from having what you want. To enable more self-empowerment.
If you’re on the receiving end of jealousy, sometimes there comes a need to step away from that energy until the other person has had chance to resolve their issues. As humans we tend to worry about space over a period of time – that there is a risk of losing someone. However, as soul’s – time and space do not apply, so giving yourself or others time and space to do inner work will only enable you to come back together in more love. Empower yourself to be in the best energy as consistently as you can. Your soul deserves it.
With a loving heart,
Rose x